Who Should Make You Happy?

Who Should Make You Happy?

I have learned to graciously accept love, care and respect from others when it comes free of any expectations in return. I have also learned to never expect love and care from anyone. Any kind of expectation is closely attached to the possibility of some sort of disappointment. If you take care of yourself and find a way to make yourself happy without depending on someone else for your happiness, the chances are that you will be able to maintain the happiness in your life much better and for a long time.  Making you happy is your responsibility.  The sooner you learn this fact the happier you will be.

I strongly urge you to practice self-sufficiency. It’s wonderful to have loved ones, friends and companions in your life. It’s great to spend your happy time with one another and add to their joy. Yes, it’s also helpful to have friends and family if they are there for you when you are in a bad place and want their support. However, it’s unhealthy, unreasonable and even unfair to put the burden of your happiness on someone else.

Having support is good and is helpful to get through a difficult time, but please remember that any time, good or bad shall pass. It shall pass whether you have someone to help you or not. You will find a way to get through it.

If you chose to stay strong, positive and forward-looking, you will not only get through the difficult time, you will feel so much better about yourself - even if you don’t feel so good about some people you thought were your friends and expected their support.  Another benefit of self-reliance is that this experience will make you stronger. It will also help you learn whom you can count on in the future. It will definitely make you feel more confident and prepared for similar difficult situations. You might not even find them difficult anymore; you would know how to handle them because you would have learned from having this experience.

Life is a string of experiences, some good and pleasant, and some not so much. As long as you can string more good experiences together, you will surely have a good life.  The more control you have of these experiences, the better chance you will have to work them in your favor. So, take charge and don’t depend on someone else to help you enjoy the best life possible.

No one knows better than you about what makes you happy.  Spend time with yourself and find out what makes you happy. Do what makes you happy.  Others may come and go, but you are with yourself for life. So, take care of yourself and love yourself.  Be Happy!