Monday, July 27, 2015

Just Make a Wish and Let the Universe Make it Happen!

Just Make a Wish and Let the Universe Make it Happen!

I have become a believer of letting the Universe know my wishes and letting it go.  It has worked most of the time. I think the only time it didn’t happen was when I either did not wish it clearly and/or earnestly enough, or the Universe was looking out for my best interest and protecting me from my own stupid wish. The Universe knows better!

Just remember to not put a deadline on your wish to come true. The Universe knows when the time is right for you to have your wish so you can enjoy the maximum benefit and pleasure of having what you wished for.

It has been happening since I was a kid: I was about ten years old growing up with three brothers when, one day, as I got really tired of my brothers bothering me, I told my mother, “I want to live on top of a hill alone where no one bothers me.” I forgot about that wish, but many years later, after living a “normal American life” - getting a degree, getting married, having children, developing a successful career, and getting a divorce - I moved to Malibu where I now live on top of a hill.  The Universe was listening and waiting for the right time to grant me my wish. I am happy!

It is still happening: We have had McLaren on our Malibu Chronicle cover, then we had Sun Air Jets on our cover, and for the past couple of months I was thinking I need a yacht on our cover.  Unexpectedly, a few weeks ago, my friend Rolf Smith introduced me to David Robb, founder of The UTOPIA, the biggest ship on the seas - And in the next issue we have The UTOPIA on our cover!  The Universe never lets me down. I guess the timing of my wish was just right - I was ready - the Universe did not have to wait years - my wish came true in a few weeks.

My connection with the Universe is getting stronger! On Sunday, I was at our Malibu Chronicle booth at the Malibu Arts Festival.  All my staff had to leave early and I was alone at closing time. I had a lot of things to pack and carry to the car. As I was wondering how was I going to do this, a friend, Gary Markowitz, offered to move the chairs. Then I looked at the rest of the bags and boxes and I thought, “Okay, I can carry some of the bags,” and had not even finished my thought when my friend Doug Machado came along with another friend (Just the right amount of helping hands I needed!) to help me move the boxes to my car. I did not even have to ask him, he just offered, “We’ll help you carry this.” I was not surprised that they came just when I needed them. I did not expect it to happen, but I was open to receiving help and appreciated the help.

 I don’t take this blessing for granted. I am not sure how long it will last, but I am grateful that it is happening. I am sure the Universe has a message in all of that for me as well. I hope I will get the message one day, so in the mean time, I am enjoying it! 

Being grateful for everyone and everything in my life! I am letting the Universe show me the way!

Monday, July 20, 2015

The Eyes Have It

The Eyes Have It

An eye can threaten like a loaded and leveled gun, or it can insult like hissing or kicking; or, in its altered mood, by beams of kindness, it can make the heart dance for joy. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Three EXTREMELY IMPORTANT things to understand about our eyes:

   The pupils of our eyes dilate and grow larger when we see someone we’re attracted to.
   Larger, dilated pupils are seen as more physically attractive, and more friendly, than smaller, contracted pupils.
   We like those who like us.

Keep in mind that these effects operate in a "subconscious" fashion. Researchers of the pupil phenomenon have observed that people prefer photos of people with dilated pupils, but they can’t tell you exactly why. The person just seems "more handsome" or "prettier" or "friendlier" somehow. They did not realize that the size of the pupils in the photographs had been altered.

Apparently, women knew this long ago and used it to their advantage. Belladonna is Italian for "beautiful lady" and was frequently used by women in the 16th century to give their eyes a sexy and dreamy look by dilating the pupils. 
Have you ever wondered why a candlelit dinner with wine is considered so romantic? Think about it. The dim light dilates the pupils of the eyes of both individuals, making them both more attractive to one another than they usually are (not to mention hiding minor physical flaws). And the alcohol in the wine accentuates the pupil dilation even more. Just add a little casual eye contact to the conversation. And remember to smile. The pupils of their eyes become more and more dilated giving their eyes that sexy, dreamy look.

We are almost always attracted to those who are attracted to us. There are probably many reasons for this, but one reason, I’m sure, is because when another person likes us, it makes us feel good about ourselves. It gives us an ego boost and increases our self-esteem and self-confidence.
"If you want someone to like you, then like them.”

Look Into My Eyes - by Allen Thompson – Secrets of Meeting, Dating and Attracting Women!

Monday, July 13, 2015

Listen to Your Inner Self

            If you feel something is not right, and you know it because you can hear your heart (intuition) nagging and questioning you, or if you’re not happy, please listen to that nagging and don’t do it. If something were good for you, you wouldn’t have a doubt. They say, “When in doubt, don’t do it.” I really don’t know who “they” are, but what they say seems like wise advice, so I try to listen whenever I want to stay out of trouble.

            If you wait a little while, watch carefully and make your internal notes, you will see that your heart does not steer you wrong. That is all the Heart can do. It tries to warn you by sending you those doubting and nagging feelings. What else do you expect? Should it show you a red flag? Well, that feeling of “something is wrong” is the Red Flag if you choose to see it and, hopefully, not ignore it, at least not without thorough investigation. I’m not saying that we should never take risks because I know we often grow by doing things outside of our comfort zone.
            Going outside your comfort zone doesn’t mean you should ignore red flags or let someone else run your life. It doesn’t mean you should force yourself to do things to make someone else happy, especially if it doesn’t make you happy. That feeling “happy or not happy” is the only measure you have to know if something is good for you or not. If you pay close attention you will develop a better relationship with your intuition. You’ll understand it better. You’ll see that your intuition never steers you wrong. Whether you have the courage to listen to it is another question.

            It’s okay to challenge yourself and do something that seems scary at first as long as it doesn’t give you a bad feeling. Being afraid and conquering those fears means you’re doing things outside your comfort zone, and that’s good for you. Those choices make you grow.

            There’s a distinct difference between being afraid of something and feeling that something is not right.  Being afraid of something but still confronting it is exhilarating, and will take you to the next level of success.  But, when you do something, or you’re with someone that gives you a constant sad nagging feeling deep inside your gut, and it makes you feel uncomfortable and unhappy, that is not good.  Don’t challenge that calling - listen to it. It’s there to protect you. If something makes you unhappy, find the strength inside you to say ‘No’ to that.  See how that feels. If saying ‘No’ brings you relief and you feel lighter, you’ll know you are making the right decision. You have to listen to your inner Self.  You’re the only one who knows you best.  You’re the only one who knows what makes you most happy. So listen to your inner Self and be happy. You deserve nothing less than absolute happiness.

Monday, July 6, 2015

Learning to L.I.V.E

Loving yourself is the simplest recipe that makes you
Insist on Freedom. The only way to be truly free is by gaining
Victory over victim syndrome… once you believe you are not a victim, you are
Empowered to be anything you want!

Learning to LIVE for ourselves is sometimes seen as selfish by most traditional standards but remember, doing what is right for us is not selfish, it is making sure we can take care of ourselves, not just others, and it is importantly called self- care. Self-care is vital and certainly not wrong. We have to learn to care for ourselves enough and feel good about ourselves enough that despite natural cravings we can actually exist without someone else's approval and therefore enable ourselves to do what is best for us. Don’t get me wrong - like anyone else I like to have a special someone in my life who cares for me and wants to be nice to me, but it should not be a necessity. I have learned from many experiences in my existence, and have come to understand, that it is my job to be nice to myself, to take care of me, and accept self-love. In fact, only if I love myself will I be so full of love that I can then love all others freely and selflessly.

So even though we all must remember to take care of ourselves, even in, and especially in, difficult and sad times - it is natural and normal to reach out for the emotional warmth offered by others. But we must remind ourselves also to reach for the strength within, even during the greatest losses of loved ones. And as difficult as that is, try to remind yourself that just like all good times, all difficult times also do pass.   But it is important to grieve and release our emotions so that we may heal and allow ‘Time,’ the best healer do it’s magic. During that time, it is important for us to let others in, and allow people to express their caring for us and embrace us with their empathy, in whatever way they know to express it. It takes nothing away from our being self- sufficient, or self-reliant, as we may be in our normal days. In the time of loss and sadness, it is okay to share our feelings with family and friends and allow them to console or make us feel better and less alone. It is always okay to accept help and be loved and be taken care of. It does not negate our ability to care for others or ourselves.

And It is good to love the people in our lives as is also good to let the people in our lives love us. So, although my life's message is to learn to love oneself first, please do not make the mistake of pushing people away by shutting them out when they want to help and care for you.

Giving love to yourself and, thereby, enabling yourself to give love to others is a blessing. But you can't just give; Love is about giving and receiving.
Sharing of love helps love grow! Try it!


Available on Look for “Learning to LIVE” by Veera Mahajan