The Eyes Have It

The Eyes Have It

An eye can threaten like a loaded and leveled gun, or it can insult like hissing or kicking; or, in its altered mood, by beams of kindness, it can make the heart dance for joy. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Three EXTREMELY IMPORTANT things to understand about our eyes:

•   The pupils of our eyes dilate and grow larger when we see someone we’re attracted to.

•   Larger, dilated pupils are seen as more physically attractive, and more friendly, than smaller, contracted pupils.

•   We like those who like us.

Keep in mind that these effects operate in a "subconscious" fashion. Researchers of the pupil phenomenon have observed that people prefer photos of people with dilated pupils, but they can’t tell you exactly why. The person just seems "more handsome" or "prettier" or "friendlier" somehow. They did not realize that the size of the pupils in the photographs had been altered.

Apparently, women knew this long ago and used it to their advantage. Belladonna is Italian for "beautiful lady" and was frequently used by women in the 16^th century to give their eyes a sexy and dreamy look by dilating the pupils. 

Have you ever wondered why a candlelit dinner with wine is considered so romantic? Think about it. The dim light dilates the pupils of the eyes of both individuals, making them both more attractive to one another than they usually are (not to mention hiding minor physical flaws). And the alcohol in the wine accentuates the pupil dilation even more. Just add a little casual eye contact to the conversation. And remember to smile. The pupils of their eyes become more and more dilated giving their eyes that sexy, dreamy look.

We are almost always attracted to those who are attracted to us. There are probably many reasons for this, but one reason, I’m sure, is because when another person likes us, it makes us feel good about ourselves. It gives us an ego boost and increases our self-esteem and self-confidence.

  

"If you want someone to like you, then like them.”

Look Into My Eyes - by Allen Thompson

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