Am I real in this moment?

Am I real in this moment?

photo by Yasmina Rossi

The only thing we know for sure is this moment. Everything else is what has been or what we think might be. We can always start something new in this moment, or even fix from now on and build on the solid and real moment that is now. If we are not living in the moment and are living in the past or for the future, we can really mess up what we have right now.

What is in the past is already there. You cannot go back to change it for better or worse. You can only learn from it and make a choice now in this moment to make this moment the best you can for yourself. Be the real you in every moment. That is the only time you have to be the real you. The rest is what you used to be and what you hope or fear to be.

You will never be sure what the future will be. There are so many factors from the past or occurring in this very moment that will affect your future. Some of those factors could be in your control and others may come from other sources that may influence your life. The only things you have control over are your actions in this moment. So focus on that and live in this moment. Enjoy it to the fullest as you take every step. Enjoy every step. Be mindful of every step as you live it and as you enjoy it. Don’t take it for granted. Nothing happens just to happen. Everything you do affects some chain of reaction. 

Think about it.  You are here today because of all the choices you made in your past and the chain reaction of events resulting from those choices. Some of your choices were made in response to the choices made by other people in your life. Either way, you have a choice, and the choice you make is in this moment. If you look closely, this moment is the only time when you have a choice. The chance to make a different choice in the past is lost. It is what it is. You can build on it or try to change from this moment on.

That is the other reason for living and making right decisions. You can at every moment know that you are doing the best and enjoying the moment as you do your best. No one can expect you to do better than your best.  That is the rule I live by and I don’t expect anything more from myself. You also have to make time to enjoy the moments you have.

So, slow down, speak less and listen more to yourself and to others. Do what you think is best for you and for others in that moment. Watch yourself in every step. Ritualize simple things in your daily life. Enjoy and savor the moments. That is all you have. Everything else is what has been and could be.

Live in the present moment. That is real. Think too much and it is gone. Enjoy it!

                   
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Learning to L.I.V.E. was written to increase awareness of domestic abuse  and eradicate this cancer from our society by empowering women and men who are suffering due to this epidemic.  My goal is to help them believe that they deserve a life in freedom and self-love.