UNREPORTED is a book for increasing awareness about domestic abuse.
Through amazing real stories it provides a step by step guide for finding your
way to freedom. To get your copy today, visit: UNREPORTED
Domestic Abuse an UNREPORTED Crime. For increasing awareness of domestic abuse and to eradicate this cancer from our society by empowering women and men who are suffering due to this epidemic. The author, Veera Mahajan's goal is to help them believe that they deserve a life of freedom and self-love. She leads her life as an example of how to find an amazing and fulfilling life after. It will happen, just believe and give it a chance. Love your Self and live an empowered life.
Monday, November 28, 2016
Monday, November 21, 2016
Happy Thanksgiving 2016!
The last week of November is set aside for giving thanks to
everyone and everything that has has been good to us in the whole year leading
up to Thanksgiving Day.
2016 has been a wonderful year for many reasons.
Reason No. 1: I am in perfect health!
Reason No. 2: I am in high spirits! Life is Good!
Reason No. 3: My sons and my mother are well and happy!
Life has been good to me.
The saying, “Be careful what you ask for, you might get it,” has proven true
for me time and time again because the universe is ready and waiting to fulfill our sincerest
wishes. And I have experienced that you have to be very specific when you ask.
If you want to be thin, don't say 'I don't
want
to be fat'. You might just gain fat. If you wish with all your
heart and your intentions are good, things do happen. The universe is waiting
for your wish and is ready and willing to bring what you command.
I am grateful for the Universe and everyone that has helped
me this year to make my littlest wishes come true. Today, I am grateful for the best producer who
has come on board to help my son Rahul RAH Mahajan release his new CD, “JACKETS
IN MALIBU.” I believe if the intentions are good and the wish is pure, combined
with your best all-out effort, you can have anything you want. Having a grateful attitude is not just
necessary, it is imperative to receive and maintain blessings.
Be grateful for all the blessings this year! Be happy!
Have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Veera
Monday, November 14, 2016
I am a Mediator, a Peacemaker
by Veera Mahajan, M.D.R.
Master of Dispute Resolution
Spiritual Coach
I am a mediator, a peacemaker, and I am always looking for an alternative dispute resolution. Conflict is an inevitable part of our lives when we’re interacting with other people on a daily basis. We don’t always know what the other person’s situation or mood is when we say or do something in their presence and we don’t know how it will affect them. It could make them happy or upset. Maybe they’re already upset at something else and their reaction has nothing to do with you. So, taking everything personally and pushing back aggressively without a thorough investigation may be unfair and could just make things worse.
Of course, we don’t roll over and let someone treat us badly, but fighting back, yelling or
reacting to someone else’s lack of self-control or tact isn’t the answer. I believe if we take time to listen to each other’s grievances, we can figure out what might be bothering us below the surface or what we might be doing that is causing the conflict. Sometimes just asking can be the answer. Don’t ignore the situation: that usually doesn’t work. Misunderstandings linger and conflicts can get bigger.
reacting to someone else’s lack of self-control or tact isn’t the answer. I believe if we take time to listen to each other’s grievances, we can figure out what might be bothering us below the surface or what we might be doing that is causing the conflict. Sometimes just asking can be the answer. Don’t ignore the situation: that usually doesn’t work. Misunderstandings linger and conflicts can get bigger.
Sometimes the problem has nothing to do with what either one of us is doing or saying. Perhaps there is something completely unrelated to us that is causing tension. If we agree to communicate and trace our paths when things started getting uncomfortable, we can usually find out where or what the problem may be.
As an example, imagine two young boys who have started attending a new school. They have an argument and end up in mediation. They have never been in mediation. They don’t know that mediation is unlike going to the Principal’s office where they have to either stay quiet, accept punishment or tell on someone else and get someone else in trouble. In mediation, they are encouraged to talk and tell their side of the story. They are given enough time to think, remember and communicate. As they talk, they are reminded that their conversation is confidential and stays in that room. The purpose of mediation is to find a solution that helps all, not get someone in trouble.
During the short mediation session, these boys become sympathetic to one another, realize they both are anxious because they don’t understand the other students, some teachers, school rules or the school culture at large. Both boys were worried that they were not being accepted by peers, and that the teachers did not understand them. They realized they were ‘in the same boat’, being new in school. They agreed to watch out for each other and felt good that they had a choice to come to mediation if they find themselves in another conflict. They realized they didn’t have to fight, hit each other, get anyone else in trouble, or fear being sent to the Principal’s office.
What would you do if you had only one orange and two of your children are fighting over it? Would you scold them, not give either one the orange and punish them for fighting? Or to be fair, would you cut the orange in half and give each of them one half? What if you later find out that one really wanted to eat the orange and the other really only needed the peel for a project and didn’t even like the orange. Half a peel is found in the garbage and so is half the orange.
If we take the time to think, communicate and listen carefully to one another, we can figure out and satisfy our real needs. (And give all the peel to one and the whole orange to the other!) That is the power of mediation. That is my passion and that is what I do. I am a mediator.
Yes, it works in adult conflicts also!
Veera Mahajan
310 456 7935 or 248 961 3322
veeraisit@gmail.com
Monday, November 7, 2016
Our Cover story artist Anatole Krasnyansky honored at Museum of Tolerance, Los Angeles.
I have been waiting to meet Anatole Krasnyansky ever since Malibu
Chronicle did a cover story on his art and life 2 years ago. Since then, our
writer Tommy Hawkins has been trying to have Anatole’s story told at the Museum
of Tolerance in Los Angeles.
Finally, today was the day!
Tommy showed Anatole’s paintings and interviewed the artist at the
museum in front
of a full house of curious and interested audience. Even though
Anatole is elderly and was tired after meeting everyone during the reception
hour, he gave a wonderful interview with Tommy. Tommy and Anatole have spent many
hours together writing Anatole’s story and have become good friends. They are
an amazing duo, an “Odd Couple” as they put it. It was very rewarding when Tommy showed the audience the Malibu Chronicle issue with Anatole Kransyansky’s painting on the cover, and said it all started with that story. He also graciously introduced me as the Publisher of the magazine. I was so proud to have been a part of the story and able to help in some way that brought Anatole’s art and life to be honored at the amazing Museum of Tolerance.
This was my first experience at this museum, which is local
and just off of Pico Blvd. It is
definitely worth visiting, and what better reason than to honor a great artist
and man who was featured in our magazine.
Anatole would like me to do another, more complete story in
Malibu Chronicle. I am looking forward to seeing more of his art and, hopefully,
finding a way to bring one to my collection.
I love my job. I am grateful for all the amazing things I
get to do and all the amazing people I get to meet! Life is good!
Tuesday, November 1, 2016
Went to Church after a long time! And enjoyed it!
Thanks Trish Steele for
inviting me to go to “In His Presence
Church” this Sunday.
I grew up as a Christian in a
Seventh Day Adventist Christian family. My family and I were regular churchgoers
till I was about 10-12 years old when my dad moved out of the mission to start
his private business. Even though I read the Bible and prayed through Christ
every morning and night, including saying grace before every meal, church-going
was optional. Over time, going to Church became less frequent.
I started becoming more
universal, which I considered to be a good thing. I did not feel brain washed
by the family tradition of Christian religion.
I made friends in all faiths and enjoyed their company and learned a lot
of good things their faiths offered. I liked my life and my attitude of being
more accepting and inclusive of all people and religions. I still like that about myself. I am very open to meeting and spending time
with all people; their religious preference has never been a filter for me. I
usually do not even ask or think about asking what religion someone belongs to.
I married a guy who came from
a family that lived by Hindu philosophy, and he did not follow any religion
himself. He was cool about my Christian background and his non-religion did not
affect me adversely. So, I continued to
pray through Christ pretty much all through my married life and our difference
in faith never became a problem. Even through our divorce religion was not a
source of conflict.
So, my conviction that there
are good people in all religions became stronger over time. The fact that the
Bible says you will go to hell if you do not accept Christ as your savior was
becoming a question in my mind. If there
is actually a Heaven and a Hell to go to after death, how could all the amazing
people in the world go to hell because they did not accept Christianity? I do not want to believe that still.
The constant conflict over
this one question and not going to church regularly, combined with my universal
acceptance and spirituality, moved me farther from the church. Whenever I did
go to church, many times I felt like the business aspect of most churches I
went to made me feel like I was wasting the time and effort that I made to go
to church.
In His Presence Church was
different. It was fun! It started like a
rock concert with lively gospel songs. The preacher kept the sermon focused,
informative and intelligent. It made me think and contemplate. It made sense.
It did not feel like a lecture expecting obedience.
I dressed up in church proper
attire. It was nice to be in a community where how you dress was not so
important. Everyone was enjoying reading the Bible, singing and learning in a
relaxed atmosphere.
Church can actually be fun!
Veera
Thursday, October 27, 2016
Tuesday, October 4, 2016
OCTOBER – DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS AND PREVENTION MONTH
October is the official month for increasing awareness of and preventing Domestic Violence. I feel privileged to be working with two wonderful groups: Safe Passage locally, and National HOTLINE in San Francisco.
A couple of weeks ago, I went to San Francisco to speak at a pre-event for the National HOTLINE. I didn’t know that I was going to be the main speaker at the event. I was sharing stories with the guests, the CEO and the other officials of the HOTLINE when my name got called and I went to the front of the crowd and started speaking about my life, my magazine and my book. I didn’t realize how easy it is to speak, even in front of almost 100% new faces when my intentions are good and I am speaking from my heart. All I want to do is show by example that life after abuse can be amazing. I want to show others still living in abuse that they are not alone. Once they take the first step, resources do open up and we do find our way to freedom. That is the message I’m trying to share through my little handy-dandy book. This little book has everything from signs of abuse, to ways to get out of it.
After about fifteen minutes of sharing, I ended the talk on a positive note. “I know I deserve better and I will not accept less then that.” As people applauded, I went back into the crowd. After my speech, I was very touched to hear the host of the party tell her story of abuse and reveal that it was the first time she told her story in public. It is very empowering to tell our story, put the blame where it belongs and move forward free from the abuser and the abuse.
Last weekend, on Oct. 1st, I had the privilege to speak at the “Day of Unity” press conference for Safe Passage. What a wonderful way to kick-off Domestic Violence Awareness month. It is an honor and pleasure to work with the CEO and founder of Safe Passage, Trish Steele. She and her husband are amazing people. They taught me how to pray with full faith again. I have met a lot of other wonderful women in the Safe Passage family. I started my fight against Domestic Violence in a group similar to Safe Passage when I was in Michigan. That is where I realized that I was living in abuse and that I need to get out. That was 8 years ago.
Now I live in Malibu, I have a positive magazine, Malibu Chronicle, and I have a book UNREPORTED that empowers you with the awareness and know-how if you want to end the cycle of abuse and live your own free life.
Let’s share the love, not the fear. There is life after abuse. And we deserve to live the life that we want to L.I.V.E.
L.I.V.E. represents the ideas and beliefs that sustain me and are vital to my happiness. I LOVE myself. I INSIST on freedom. I am not anyone’s VICTIM. I am EMPOWERED to live my life the way I like it.
Tuesday, September 27, 2016
Keeping an open heart and L.I.V.E.
Life is pretty amazing! As I stay open to life, I realize there are more opportunities coming my way. I accept the opportunities with open arms and gratitude, and jump in to feel the experience even when I sometimes feel like I may not be prepared.
I believe all things happen for a reason and at the correct time, so if this opportunity is coming to me at this time, I must be ready enough to be there at this time. I am always willing and ready to learn, so I feel comfortable enough to get started and learn as I go. For
some reason or maybe for that reason, I usually come out okay. I’m not afraid of opportunities when they sound good and feel good. The same is true about meeting new people in my life. I am open to meeting new people. New people introduce me to more new people, and something good always comes out of it whether it’s a good time, a great experience or both.
The more I experience life and the more I learn, the more I want to experience and learn. Life has been good and is good. I’m excited about this journey that keeps taking me through wonderful experiences and brings wonderful people into my life. I am blessed to have very good friends that I share my work and life with.
Best of all, I’m blessed to have amazing relationships with my two sons Kunal and Rahul. It makes me overjoyed when I see them happy and living their dreams. I am looking forward to welcoming my new daughter-in-law, Ritika into my already amazing and fulfilling life.
All this is possible because I decided to LIVE my life. Learning to L.I.V.E. is a beautiful journey!
L.I.V.E. represents the ideas and beliefs that sustain me
and are vital to my happiness. I LOVE
myself. I INSIST on freedom. I am
not anyone’s VICTIM. I am EMPOWERED to live my life the way I
like it.
*******
Look for it in Amazon under : Veera Mahaja
Here is a direct link : purchase UNREPORTED
Tuesday, September 13, 2016
Keep your eyes on the road and hands on the steering wheel
There are so many ‘crazies’ driving on the same roads you
are. So, if you want to get to your next
appointment or home safely, make sure you have your eyes on the road at all
times and both hands on the steering wheel. You cannot afford to be distracted
by text messages or the beautiful views of the Pacific Ocean while you drive on
Pacific Coast Highway or through the beautiful canyons of Malibu.
Today as I was driving on Malibu Canyon, a really impatient
and crazy driver in the lane going in the opposite direction decided to pass
four cars and sped up, coming right at me. If I had not been completely alert
and able to quickly slow down so he could swerve back into his lane in front of
the other cars, we would have crashed head on. We were only a split second away
from being mangled. I could barely catch
a breath as this crazy driver screeched past me. Almost immediately, a
motorcyclist suddenly came from behind me, sped into the oncoming traffic, and
then cut in front of me at a very high speed. I felt like I was in a car chase
game trying to save my car from crashing at any moment. And all this was
happening on one of the most beautiful and dangerous canyon roads, Malibu
Canyon. A crash there can easily throw
you over the cliff and hundreds of feet down into the canyon. The chance of
surviving that fall is slim. If you are lucky enough not to die, you will
probably end up badly broken while setting off a brush fire.
Driving recklessly to save 5 minutes could cost the reckless
driver’s life, and as they go to their fate, they might take other innocent
drivers and passengers with them. Please
think, what is being five minutes late compared to never getting there? So, people,
please drive carefully when you are on these busy roads and canyons. Take a few
extra minutes and reach your destinations safely, and let others reach home
safely too.
Tuesday, September 6, 2016
Our Choices Make Our Lives
I have a wish and I know what I want
I sent my wish to the Universe at play
I trust the Universe to know better than me,
About what I need and how to send it my way.
The Universe blesses me with opportunities
It is my job to think and weigh the prize
Do they make sense? Do they make me happy?
I even consult my close confidants and my soul
For counsel and advise.
For counsel and advise.
I contemplate the pros and cons
Is this option good for me?
Could it hurt me? Could it hurt someone else?
Am I happy in this moment?
I have to make choices at every moment
Through my choices I decide the direction of my ways
I can decide to be selfish and try to satiate the mind now
Or listen to the soul for the bigger picture
And do what is good for all.
I like to be happy and live in-joy, so I
Stay positive and get out of my own way
At least I will have a great experience
Learn something to create a chain of good experiences
Use what I learn to have a better LIFE!
Use what I learn to have a better LIFE!
Veera
Tuesday, August 23, 2016
You Have to Follow Your Gut
You have to follow your gut feeing even if you’re not completely sure how it might turn out. It might work out the way you expect or hope or it may go totally opposite of what you want to happen. If you have done all your homework and still everything you see is going wrong you have to take action. At the time the only thing you can count on is your inner voice and follow the path it guides you to. Hold your ground and keep marching forward. Make sure you don’t base your life decisions on advice from people who don’t have to deal with the consequences. Once you make a decision you have to also be prepared to accept the results. That is why always, always trust your first gut instinct. If you feel something is wrong, it usually is. Deep down you already know the truth.
Remember, your first instinct is usually right. Once you know in your gut you are doing the right thing, never apologize for trusting your intuition. Your brain can play tricks your heart can blind, but your gut is always right. Our gut feeling is the closest thing we have in life to a road map. It’s good to follow your heart and your gut but make sure you bring your brain with you. Do your homework and get the facts right before acting. Sometimes you have to stop thinking too much and just go where your heart takes you. You have to follow your gut.
Tuesday, August 2, 2016
I am enjoying the journey to L.I.V.E. free….
I LOVE myself, I INSIST on freedom, I am not anyone’s VICTIM, I am EMPOWERED to live my life the way I like it.
My book “UNREPORTED” made No. I International Bestseller!!
I am so excited and grateful and feel so blessed to have my work of love in my book “UNREPORTED” ranked No. 1 International Bestseller in the US, Canada, Australia and # 7 in UK.
It took my whole life to learn about domestic abuse, and the last 6 years to really understand why I had to go through it and what my purpose would be in this world.
I have no regrets. I know what abuse is. I know how it feels and I know that no one deserve to feel like that. I am sure and strong enough now that not only can I protect myself but I have built enough knowledge, empathy and skills to know that I am prepared to help others when I see someone suffering in an abusive situation.
As my son so profoundly reminded me just a couple of days ago, no matter how much I want to help and
no matter how much it hurts me to see someone putting up with abuse or living in it, I cannot help unless that someone wants help or is ready to be helped. So, my job right now is to increase awareness about the cancer that an abusive relationship can be. My book UNREPORTED brings awareness to this subject and lets you know that when you are ready to break the cycle, there is help and you can escape.
Today I am living a life which proves there can be an amazing life after. We just need to have courage to go find it.
Please learn to L.I.V.E. that free life.
Veera
Tuesday, July 19, 2016
Wow! Surviving hanging from over the side of the hill! Literally!
This Monday started just like any other day or at least any
other Monday with the alarm going off at 6:30am. The first thing to do of course is to check
my calendar on the phone to make sure I don’t miss anything on the day’s
schedule.
As soon as I reached Malibu Diamond gym for my morning
workout, I was shocked to find out that the gym was vandalized overnight. It
was terrible to see the glass broken everywhere and finding out that someone
broke into my home-away-from- home, where most of my mornings are spent. As I finally got on the stepper and tried to
get a workout, my son called with the saddest news. He had just found out that
one of his childhood friends had suddenly died and no one knew why and how.
It was a little too much early in the morning. The sadness
of losing a young life like that was unbearable and I had a good cry.
Somehow got through the workout and was driving home, slowly
going up the hill as I enjoy driving every day. Suddenly, I felt good as I saw my friend Hermine walking down the hill. I decided to stop and say hello. Hermine likes to talk. She likes to tell stories. So to save her from standing in the middle of the road as she would normally do to tell me something, I decided to pull over onto a very narrow
shoulder. NOT A GOOD IDEA. PLEASE DO
NOT EVER DO THAT ON A STEEP HILL OVERLOOKING A VERY LOW CANYON AND NOT IN A
REGULAR LOW TIRE CAR. Well I did it and learned the hard way what a horrible
mistake that was.
Once the story was finished and after a few laughs between
friends and saying bye to Hermine, I tried to pull out onto the road again and
the scariest thing happened. The tires were spinning but not willing to move
forward, instead the car started slipping back and I realized I was very close
to the edge and if I tried to move again the car could easily go over with me
in it. If there was a chance to get out of this, I had to drive in reverse
while staying very close to the road.
Problem is I AM NOT A
VERY GOOD REVERSE DRIVER. Today, at this moment, when I am hanging over
the edge, I so wished I had practiced driving in reverse. IT WAS SO SCARY. I WAS TREMBLING, ALMOST
PARALYZED AND STUCK TO THE SEAT.
Hermine tried to help. Then tried to flag someone driving up
the hill for help. Finally a good Samaritan stopped. His name was Ron, and he
tried to guide me in my reverse driving pursuit, but when he realized I might
make a slight fatal mistake and drive right off the cliff, he offered to do it
for me. I put the car in park and
somehow slid out of it. He took my seat and like a pro drove backwards hugging
the road and eventually when I saw one tire coming back on the road I knew the
danger was over and we will be fine.
I could not believe that time passed and I was actually
driving back home. I trembled and cried
for almost three more hours. My body was so tight from shaking and my head was
hurting.
Thank you JC for the tea and eggs to calm me down. It was an unbelievably interesting day for sure.
Advise from Captain Chris McKernan, Firestation 71, Malibu. In any car accident, get out of the car as
soon as you can. Your safety is more important than the car.
Tuesday, July 12, 2016
My book “UNREPORTED” made No. 1 International Bestseller!!
I am so excited and grateful and feel so blessed to have my work of
love in my book “UNREPORTED” ranked No. 1 International Bestseller in the US,
Canada, Australia and # 7 in UK.
It took my whole life to learn about domestic abuse, and the last 6
years to really understand why I had to go through it and what my purpose would
be in
this world.
I have no regrets. I know what abuse is. I know how it feels and I know that no one deserve
to feel like that. I am sure and strong enough now that not only can I protect
myself but I have built enough knowledge, empathy and skills to know that I am
prepared to help others when I see someone suffering in an abusive situation.
As my son so profoundly reminded me just a couple of days ago, no
matter how much I want to help and no matter how much it hurts me to see
someone putting up with abuse or living in it, I cannot help unless that
someone wants help or is ready to be helped. So, my job right now is to
increase awareness about the cancer that an abusive relationship can be. My
book UNREPORTED brings awareness to this subject and lets you know that when
you are ready to break the cycle, there is help and you can escape.
Today I am living a life which proves there can be an amazing life
after. We just need to have courage to
go find it.
I thank you all so much for making my book, “UNREPORTED” an
International Bestseller. Primarily I
want you to know you are not alone. Reach out, there is help. And most
importantly, the life you deserve to live is waiting for you. Go get it. Learn
to L.I.V.E. that
free life.
Best wishes,
Veera
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