Forgiving someone is good but letting him or her hurt you again and again is not good. Just like loving someone else is good but loving someone at your own cost and not loving yourself enough is not good. If you let someone hurt you again and again, and you are not doing anything to stop it or move away from them, you are not loving yourself and, you are not being good to yourself. Jesus may have said turn the other cheek, but I don’t remember him ever saying let them strike you again.
"Hit Me Once, Shame On You.
Hit Me Twice, Shame On Me."
I’m sure you’ve heard this phrase before, but it doesn’t
only refer to physical hitting. People hit and abuse others in many ways.
Physical pain is just one of many ways people hurt. Emotional and verbal abusers
get away with it everyday. All too often, the victims try to please these
abusers more and the abuse only gets worse. This kind of abuse can go on for
years. The victim keeps trying to forgive and move on till they are hit again,
but the abuser does not stop till the victim decides not to be the victim
anymore.
It’s okay to want to live a loving and forgiving life. It’s good to want to forgive our perpetrators, but if the abuser’s behavior isn’t changing and they continue to hurt you, it’s okay to forgive and move away. The forgiveness is not only for the other person. Forgiveness is for you to be able to put the past in the past and move into a happier life for yourself. It is okay to protect yourself. If moving away is the only way to take care of you, then move away. Forgive with no expectations. Forgive for your Self! And be Happy!
You
deserve to be happy. If you have to be alone to make that happen, so be it!
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